Skit maker Olamide Ogunleye, popularly known as Oluwadolarz, narrated how he was allegedly sexually abused at age six by a female neighbour he identified as "Aunty Ramota." In a video shared on his Instagram page, Oluwadolarz said he was mistreated every time he returned home from school to the house where he lived with his grandmother. The abuse went on for a year, during which he was too young to understand what was happening and had no one to confide in.
"I'm saying it because I'm beginning to realise that it's something that could have messed up my life. It messed up my sex life, messed up a lot of things about me. The damage that that stuff causes is unforgettable. It's almost unsolvable." — Oluwadolarz
He explained that the incident left him with resentment and emotional scars that affected his trust and relationships as he grew older. Oluwadolarz noted that when he eventually told his guardians, they only issued a warning to the perpetrator rather than seeking justice — a response that advocates say is all too common when male children disclose abuse.
Media personality Abisoye Olukoya Michael, known as Oyemykke, also shared his experience — narrating how he was abused at age four by a 28-to-30-year-old family acquaintance he called "Aunty Saida." In an Instagram video, he recounted how the abuse began when he was left in the woman's care and continued repeatedly, leaving him with lasting emotional damage that he only recently began addressing in therapy.
"Aunty Saida was the first to abuse me at the age of four. She molested me repeatedly. I speak to therapists till today." — Oyemykke
Oyemykke connected his experience to the wider debate surrounding singer Simi, faulting her for not taking accountability over resurfaced tweets that social media users deemed inappropriate. He urged her to tender a public apology rather than be defensive, saying her words reflected attitudes that cause real harm to male survivors.
The controversy was sparked after Simi commented publicly about rape, stating that men should stop raping women and suggesting rapists be castrated. When a TikTok user's rape claim was later found to be false, users called on Simi to apologise — and screenshots of old tweets from 2012 and 2013 began circulating, drawing widespread criticism for their content involving children.
The resurfacing of those posts drew intense criticism. Oyemykke directly addressed the singer, saying: "Simi, you need to apologise and let this entire situation go down." The Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency subsequently referred the allegations to the Commissioner of Police for preliminary investigation. The Director General of the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons (NAPTIP), Binta Bello, also ordered a full-scale investigation.
Rights activists called for a clear, professional and time-bound investigation. The founder of Boys Aid Network, Olufunke Oyinlola, highlighted a systemic failure:
"Abuse of boys, particularly by women, is often overlooked or underreported. There is a strong societal belief that boys cannot be victims of sexual abuse. Male rape was not formally recognised in Nigerian law until the VAPPA 2015." — Olufunke Oyinlola, Boys Aid Network
The Chief Operating Officer of DOHS Care Foundation, Ololade Ajayi, lamented that sexual abuse involving male children goes underreported because victims fear ridicule or dismissal. She noted that society sometimes trivialises such experiences, with some people even praising young boys involved with older women rather than recognising them as victims.
"It is important for male victims of sexual violence to also speak out. Abuse should never be normalised, whether the victim is male or female." — Ololade Ajayi, DOHS Care Foundation
The Lagos State Commissioner of Police, Moshood Jimoh, confirmed the case was being referred to the command for investigation, stating that formal action would follow once a complaint was received.